My Boyfriend Wants Me to Get an Abortion

You saw two lines on your pregnancy test and a wave of emotions hit you. You weren’t sure how to feel, so you went to your boyfriend for support and guidance. He told you that you have to get an abortion.

While having an abortion may have crossed your mind, his reaction made your heart sink. You feel overwhelmed, scared, and unsure of what to do next. You don’t want to jeopardize your relationship, and you’re not even sure if you can support this pregnancy — but the pressure feels heavy and unrelenting. What now?

If this sounds like you, let’s pause for a moment.

It’s okay to slow down and acknowledge everything you’re feeling. An unexpected pregnancy can change everything in an instant. The fear, confusion, and uncertainty you’re experiencing are valid — and they deserve space.

Support Starts Here

This Is Your Pregnancy — and Your Decision

When emotions are running high, it can feel like someone else’s voice is louder than your own. But it’s important to know that you are the one who gets to decide what happens next. Even if your boyfriend has strong opinions, this decision affects your body, your heart, and your future.

Wanting your partner’s input is natural. Wanting their support is human. But feeling pressured or rushed into a decision can make an already difficult situation feel even more overwhelming.

Why This Feels So Complicated

You might be experiencing a mix of emotions all at once, such as:

Fear

Fear of parenting, fear of finances, fear of how this could change your life or your relationship.

Pressure

Feeling like there’s a “right” answer you’re expected to give, even if you’re not sure it’s what you want.

Attachment

You care deeply about your boyfriend and may worry that choosing differently could cause conflict or loss.

All of these feelings can coexist — and none of them mean you have to decide right away.

Support Should Feel Safe, Not Forced

Healthy support looks like listening, patience, and respect. It allows room for questions, doubts, and honest conversation. If you feel scared to speak openly, pressured to move quickly, or dismissed when you share your feelings, it’s worth paying attention to that.

You deserve to feel supported — not controlled — during such an important moment in your life.

You Don’t Have to Have All the Answers Today

It’s okay to take a step back.

You may find it helpful to:

• Talk with a trusted friend, family member, or mentor

• Learn more about pregnancy, parenting, and available resources

• Speak with someone who can help you think through your options without judgment

At Alight, we exist for moments exactly like this. We offer a calm, confidential space where you can talk through what you’re feeling, get accurate information, and explore support — without pressure and without expectations.

You Are Not Alone

Feeling pushed or uncertain can be isolating, especially when the person you hoped would support you feels like another source of stress. But you don’t have to carry this alone, and you don’t have to rush a decision that feels unresolved.

Your thoughts matter. Your feelings matter. And you deserve time, clarity, and compassion as you move forward.

If you need someone to talk to — someone who will listen and support you as you navigate what’s next — Alight is here for you.

Schedule an Appointment

*This article was developed with the assistance of AI technology and reviewed by the Alight team to ensure accuracy and compassion.